We like to be in control. We like to be certain about processes and outcomes. When we are in control, we feel stable. When we are not in control, we become shaky, and might even lose control. When we lose control, all hell breaks loose.
So what is the key to being in control? Before we answer that question, ask yourself this question, “What is it that I really want to control?” Do you really want to control the other person, the situation, the outcome, or what? Whatever this answer is, it pushes the responsibility of the entire matter to somebody or something else.
When we attempt to control an external party or event, we become a subject of reaction to what’s taking place. Next question to ask yourself, “What is it that I really need to control?” You probably got the answer, yes, “myself”. The “thing” or person that we really need to and can control is SELF.
When you can control yourself, you become in control. When you are in control, you become stable. When you are stable, you can think. When you can think, you can choose wisely. When you can choose wisely, you have a greater and more positive influence on the outcome.
So what’s the key to being in control of yourself? Consider this, when are you more in control? When you are stressed or not stressed? Probably the latter. Thus the key to being in control of yourself, your life, and your results is to RELAX.
Researchers who studied top olympians shared that these top performers are masters of relaxation. Our bodies perform best when we are relaxed. When you are relaxed, you have no negative emotions such as fear or anxiety. When these are not present, you do not feel the need to control. When you do not feel the need to control, you become MORE IN CONTROL.
Relax yourself = Control
Stress = Less Control
Too much Stress = Out of Control
The only person we need to control is our “self”. The more you need to control, the less you will be in control. The less you want to control, the more you will be in control. So, RELAX……